1. Don't blame yourself.
For years mothers of autistic children were guilted into thinking they hadn't been loving enough. The science of why children are born with certain challenges is an imperfect one. And it does very little good to look backward. I spent too many years trying to dissect my mothering techniques, until one day I googled "Asperger's Syndrome" and found myself reading an almost exact description of my son. In that moment I realized: "You know what? It turns out, I'm a pretty good mom. I simply have a difficult child." That change in mindset made all the difference. Suddenly I had confidence in myself again. I could love myself, which meant I had more love to give my children. It does everyone a disservice if we blame ourselves.