One's definition of success changes over time, he noted. For youth, success might include doing well in school, being popular, becoming independent. As a missionary, success might mean finding, teaching and baptizing investigators. Then as an adult, he said, it is tempting to gauge success according to worldly goods.
"Obviously, success means different things to different people but one thing is clear: for all of us today, those who truly desire to be disciples of Jesus Christ must somehow come to understand and embrace His definition of success for us, which to me seems to be embodied in His words: 'therefore, what manner of men [and women] ought ye to be? Verily I say unto you, even as I am' " (3 Nephi: 27:27).
Some people are content with merely appearing successful, Elder Snow said. He compared this appearance of success to reality television where "lives are often filled with more drama than direction."