FHE: Family

Conference Talk: For more information on this topic read "More Diligent and Concerned at Home," by David A. Bednar, Ensign, Nov 2009, 17-20.

Thought: Each family prayer, each episode of family scripture study, and each family home evening is a brushstroke on the canvas of our souls. No one event may appear to be very impressive or memorable. . . . But our consistency in doing seemingly small things can lead to significant spiritual results.

(David A. Bednar, "More Diligent and Concerned at Home," Ensign, Nov 2009, 17-20.)

Song: "Love is Spoken Here," Children's Songbook, p. 190.

Scripture: Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great. (Doctrine and Covenants 64:33)

Lesson: Remind the family of the story of Captain Moroni (see Alma 45:20-46:36). Tell them that the title of liberty was Captain Moroni's motto to live by. As a family decide on a family motto. This motto could be a scripture or a statement made by the family. Using this motto, have the family design and make a flag that has your family name and motto on it. The flag could be displayed on family nights, on special occasions, and during family reunions. This flag could e a permanent flag, or a new one could be made yearly, using a new motto for each flag.

(Allan K. Burgess and Max H. Molgard, Fun For Family Night: Book of Mormon Edition, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1990], p. 174.)

Story: A few years after our marriage, my wife and I purchased our first house. It was a modest brick building located in a new subdivision where land was relatively inexpensive. Though the number of square feet in the structure was limited and the construction very simple, we were thrilled with the prospects of moving in because we had been involved in the planning, and the place was to be "ours"!

Once the papers had been signed and the closure procedures completed, the contractor handed us the keys and gave us this charge: "I have constructed the house; now you must make it a home."

The contractor was a wise and experienced man. He knew that houses consist of wood, cement, bricks, mortar, and other perishable materials. He also knew that homes are built out of the nonperishable materials such as love, service, faith, and Christian living. His commission to us was not to drive more nails or to lay more bricks - the construction workers had already completed their assigned jobs. Rather, his commission to us was to do what the carpenters, painters, plumbers, and other workers could not do for us - to add the spirit and love that would transform our modest dwelling into a wonderful home.

I have learned over the years that hands build a house but hearts build a home. That is why I regard acts of service as the material out of which the bricks of an eternal family unit are molded, and love as the mortar that holds the bricks together. Both love and service are essential and inseparable. Love is that inner feeling that sparks the desire to do someone good; service - selfless service - is that outward expression of love that blesses the receiver and the giver. So, each heartbeat in behalf of others adds mass to the mansion, strength to the structure, and beauty to the building we call home.

(Carlos E. Asay, Family Pecan Trees: Planting a Legacy of Faith at Home, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1992].)

Activity: Divide the family into pairs, and give each pair a piece of paper and something to write with. Have family members write down on their pieces of paper the first, middle, and last names of everyone in the room.

Explain that they have five minutes in which to make as many words as they can from the letters found in each person's full name. The words cannot be proper nouns. Each word must be at least three letters long. The words must be formed using only one person's complete name and then moving quickly onto the next complete name for more words. For example, from the name Lee Ann Smith you could form time, mile, eat, etc. From George Thomas Smith you could form math, moth, home, etc.

At the end of five minutes have everyone share the words they have formed. The words they have formed. The words are worth one point for each letter, with a bonus of five points if no other group formed the same word.

At the end of the activity explain that their names are very important. Their actions will determine what people will think of their names. Have everyone share one thing they think of when they hear the name of Jesus Christ. Point out to the family that every family member determines what people think of when they hear your family name.

(Allan K. Burgess and Max H. Molgard, Fun For Family Night: Book of Mormon Edition, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1990], p. 174.)

Refreshment Bird's Nest Cookies

  • 1 (12-ounce) bag butterscotch chips or chocolate chips
  • 1 (12-ounce) can Chinese noodles
  • 1 cup miniature marshmallows
Melt the butterscotch or chocolate chips in the microwave in a medium bowl. To do so, microwave on high power for 1 minute and stir. Return to microwave in 30-second increments, stirring each time, until melted and smooth.

When all the chips are melted and the mixture is smooth, add the remaining ingredients and stir well. Use a tablespoon to drop the batter onto a cookie sheet that has been lined with waxed paper. Refrigerate until the cookies are firm.

Makes 2 dozen cookies.

(Clark L. and Kathryn H. Kidd, 52 Weeks of Recipes for Students, Missionaries, and Nervous Cooks, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2007] p. 71.)

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