Scripture: D&C 64:10
Yes, to be in the right we must forgive, and we must do so without regard to whether or not our [enemy] repents, or how sincere is his transformation, or whether or not he asks our forgiveness. (Spencer W. Kimball, The Miracle of Forgiveness, 282-83.)
Before beginning this activity, give each family member a small pebble to hold. Share one or more of the following case studies with your family, or create some of your own. Ask family members to think about how they would feel and what they would do if this happened to them.
" You have worked hard drawing a beautiful picture. You leave the room for just a few minutes, and when you return, you discover that your little sister came in and scribbled all over it. What would you do?
" You are carrying an armful of things down the hall at school. Some kids are goofing around, and one of them bumps into you, scattering your things all over the floor. The person who bumped into you laughs and runs off. What would you do?
" You tell a friend something very personal, and the friend promises not to tell anyone. Later you find out that your friend broke the promise and even told other things about you that are not true. What would you do?
Ask your family to put the pebbles they are holding into one of their shoes. Have each person walk around and describe about how uncomfortable it is. Ask, "How can a little pebble be compared to feelings we have when we don't forgive a person who has offended us?"
(Those little pebbles are like the feelings we have when we don't forgive someone who has offended us. They can start out small but then feel bigger and bigger. Walking around with a pebble in your shoe is like carrying a grudge and refusing to forgive someone who offended you.)
(Dennis H. Leavitt and Richard O. Christensen, Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: The Doctrine and Covenants, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2004], p. 133.)
Get a large, thick stocking and place ten household items inside it such as a spoon, a small ball, a stapler, a small toy soldier, tweezers, an audiotape, a small ruler, a screwdriver, etc. Tie the end of the stocking closed. Allow each family member two minutes to feel the contents of the stocking. During the two minutes, the person tries to identify and privately write down what he or she thinks the items are. When everyone has had a turn, the contents are shown as each person checks the answers on his or her paper. This activity demonstrates that it is difficult to judge what's inside something. This is especially true of people. We can see what people do, but we cannot see inside to understand how they feel.
(Max H. Molgard and Allan K. Burgess, The Best of Fun For Family Night, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2003], p. 68.)
Mud Pie Brownies
2 cups sugar
1 cup butter or margarine, softened
1/3 cup unsweetened cocoa, or 2 squares melted unsweetened chocolate
1 1/2 cups flour
1 tablespoon vanilla
2 cups chopped pecans or walnuts
1 cup flaked coconut
1 (7-ounce) jar Marshmallow Creme
1 recipe Chocolate Frosting (below)
In a large bowl, beat together eggs, sugar, and butter or margarine. Beat in cocoa or melted chocolate and flour. Stir in nuts and coconut. Pour batter into a greased 9x13-inch aluminum pan. Bake at 350 degrees for about 30 minutes. While brownies are baking, make Chocolate Frosting. Remove brownies from oven. While hot, spread with Marshmallow Creme, then swirl in Chocolate Frosting. Makes 15 brownies.
1/2 cup butter or margarine
1/4 cup milk
3 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa
1 teaspoon vanilla
2 cups powdered sugar
In large saucepan, melt butter over medium heat. Stir in milk, cocoa, and vanilla until well blended. Add powdered sugar and stir in. Use hand mixer to beat until smooth. (Julie Badger Jensen, Essential Mormon Celebrations, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2005], p. 24.)