Editor's note: This column discusses the challenges of marital communication about intimacy. Why do marriages break up? Arguments about the children, about money, about religion, about sex; personality conflicts, incompatibility, bad conflict resolution; all these things are true, and all are incomplete.
When President Kimball told us that any Latter-day Saint couple of good will could make a happy marriage, he was right — but he didn't mean that it would happen automatically.
Quarrels over child-rearing or money or ambition or scheduling are rarely caused by those issues — though the issues are usually real enough, and need to be resolved.