Of Nerds and Free Spirits

Dear Dave,

Does it matter who keeps the checkbook when you're married? I'm not good with numbers, but I feel strange because my wife handles these things. Is there anything wrong with this situation?


Dear Daniel,

There's nothing at all wrong with your situation. We all have different gifts, so it just makes sense that whoever is better organized, or better with numbers, should handle this kind of thing.

In each marriage there's a nerd and a free spirit. The nerd is the one that's organized, and very good at keeping everything in place. The free spirit is not a detail-oriented person. This doesn't mean they're not concerned, or that they're irresponsible, but they just aren't as administratively-gifted. They don't get a rush when the checkbook balances out.

However, that doesn't mean that whoever keeps the checkbook should make all the financial decisions, either. Those decisions, like all others in a marriage, should be made together with input from both the husband and the wife. When you do a budget, you should both sit down together, and come to an agreement on where the money's going each month. Trust me, if you follow these guidelines the checkbook will be accurate, plus you'll experience increased unity in your daily lives and better communication in your marriage!

- Dave

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