On Books and Covers etc

We all know about that “righteous checklist” of yore. Marry young, have lots of kids, stay home with your children at all cost, plant a garden, grind wheat, make bread, sew your own clothes, be frugal, store dried beans, and do your family history. Fortunately we’re moving away from the idea that doing those things equals righteousness and that if you’re not doing those things you’re going straight to the Terrestial Kingdom. I think our church is becoming more tolerant and accepting of differences; that we each make our choices and that’s okay. But in the process, are we becoming less tolerant of those women who continue to choose to do those things on the “righteous checklist”? Do you see the bland mother herding a bunch of kids down the hall at church and assume you know exactly which box you can stick her in?

Imagine you’ve just moved into a new ward and are scoping out the members there, hoping to find a new friend or two. You find out that there are only a couple women your age in the ward–namely Sister A and Sister B.

Sister A married at 20 and had her first child 10 1/2 months later. She now has 5 children and is a stay-at-home mom. She and her family drink powdered milk and she makes most of their bread, using freshly ground wheat. She plants a garden every year, bottles fruit and makes applesauce and jam each summer. She has a good amount of food storage and is actively working on storing more. She was excited when a friend gave her a pressure cooker so she could bottle vegetables and try cooking dried beans in a more efficient way.

Sister A loves to trade tips on getting good deals at stores, is grateful for hand-me-downs and makes-over old clothes into new (turning pants with holes into shorts, etc). She wears little to no make-up and rarely buys herself new clothes; trendy she is not. Other hobbies she has include quilting, sewing and scrapbooking. She’s also cross-stitched many of the temples her family members have married in. In learning about her family history, this friend has expressed her admiration for her great-great grandmother who was a 2nd wife in a polygamous marriage.

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