Preparing for an Eternal Marriage and Family (David O. McKay Lesson 14)

Maintaining Moral Fidelity

I have said many times to young couples at the marriage altar: Never let the tender intimacies of your married life become unrestrained. Let your thoughts be as radiant as the sunshine. Let your words be wholesome and your association together be inspiring and uplifting, if you would keep alive the spirit of romance throughout your marriage together.

Keeping moral standards should be foremost before and during marriage. The next challenge concerns distress attending the separation from your partner in marriage, with whom you have been able to share the complete expressions of love. There is a constant temptation, always reaching out. Even when not sought, there is a constant persuasion to commit yourself with someone other than your partner in marriage. These persuasions are not unique to those serving in the military, but are increased perhaps because of the necessary separation for long periods of duty away from home.

To those of you who are not married, there is the constant persuasion and the ever-present invitation to forsake that standard of moral purity upon which the success of future marriage depends.

Remember that the desire for companionship with a lovely young woman is a God-given impulse to be reserved for that most sacred of all human relationships in marriage with a pure, virtuous wife.

Husbands, be true to your wives; wives, be true to your husbands. Young men, be true to yourselves and to your future partner in marriage. Guard against the great sin of Sodom and Gomorrah; it has been labeled as a sin second only in seriousness to the sin of murder.

I speak of the sin of adultery, which, as you know, was the word used by the Master as He referred to sexual sins of fornication and adultery, and besides this the equally grievous sin of homosexuality, which seems to be gaining momentum and social acceptance in the Babylon of today's world.

Interests outside a marriage can lead to divorce. How quickly marriage relationships can disintegrate when other interests begin to supersede the simple courtesies and expressions of affection which, when sincerely given and received, provide the mortar, as it were, to hold together the blocks that go to make up a solid family home.

I am convinced that one of the greatest enemies of happiness in the home is the word apathy; to fail to take interest or concern or to share can begin to erode until finally the house can collapse.

When a businessman allows himself to have his head turned by a pretty face or a shapely form, or whatever else, and lets his thoughts begin to run riot, they become the father of acts, and if continued without checking or cultivating different thoughts, by family home evenings or Church relationships, they can become a destructive force where evil replaces good and high principles give way to selfish desires. If we admit, as we must do, that there are evil forces about us, the master of darkness knows the weaknesses in each one of us. If it be a tendency to be a sadist, he plays on that weakness; if one is inclined to be uncharitable, that becomes a great fault; if perchance his thoughts run to suggestive acts or conduct, this too could open the floodgates to a wavering mind.

Comments and feedback can be sent to