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Stop Obsessing About Marriage: An Open Letter to My Single Friends

To those like me, who seek for marriage yet find ourselves single, it is hard. Often I hear things like, “Don’t worry, you’ll find the one,” or, “It’s just not time yet, keep trying.” But it becomes extremely discouraging to keep trying when you have little success. In early February, I was told by a girl that she was not ready for a relationship and wanted to stop dating.

I started to wonder, “What did I do wrong?" When I realized, I was obsessing about marriage. I wanted to find a wife and start a family so badly that I was scaring away girls. I turned to the gospel for answers, and I found this quote:

“To you single women and men who wish to be married I say this, Do not give up hope. And do not give up trying. But do give up being obsessed with it. The chances are that if you forget about it and become anxiously engaged in other activities, the prospects will brighten immeasurably.”
~Gordon B. Hinckley

I was obsessing about marriage and I needed to stop; it was hurting my dating life and affecting my happiness. As I read this quote, I asked myself, “What are these other activities that President Hinckley talks about?  What should I do while I am single and trying to find a spouse?” Here are some things we can do to stay anxiously engaged while not obsessing about marriage.

Work at the temple.

Working at the temple is an awesome way to prepare for the next phase of life. . . .

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