Surprise! How I became the person I wanted to marry….

I had a flash of deja vu a week or so ago, something triggered a childhood memory and I was struck by the oddest thought…I’ve somehow become the person I wanted to marry. I guess I’ve always been a planner, and I had a very clear vision of what I wanted as a child. I wanted to live in Northern Virginia, married to a man who was a lawyer, and who did international work. (What that actually meant was a little hazy to me, but that’s what I wanted.) I now live in Northern Virginia, and am a lawyer who facilitates criminal justice reform in other countries. (I have a better grasp now of what the job actually entails, which I’m sure is a relief to my boss.)

I didn’t plan it this way. I majored in Russian and secondary education in college and finished all the course work, except the student teaching, to qualify as a high school teacher. I didn’t decide to go to law school until the end of my junior year, and the whole process of making that decision was painful and jarring–it seemed daunting to me as a single woman.

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