This is one of the fundamental principles of systems theory (a paradigm for looking at people’s lives). Our lives are intricate webs of relationships and forces – home, church, school, community, family, friends. A shift in one area, relationship, or routine sends ripples across the whole system. So in essence the system tries to maintain it’s balance because negotiating a new normal requires a lot of energy and resources.
Basically everything around us enforces the status quo. It begs to be static. It’s why bad patterns cycle over and over again. It’s why relationships stay dysfunctional. It’s why although people express a desire for change, it often never materializes. It’s why we set the same new year’s resolutions every year.
It is a lot of work to change.