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4 Tips from Church Leaders About How We Can Judge Without Becoming Judgmental


4. Keep the commandments.

Finally, Elder Schwitzer advised members to keep the commandments because "the willingness to keep God’s commandments opens to us many promised blessings."

As the leaders of the Church have addressed the topic of judging others, they mention the commandment to love one another with a particular frequency.

And it is no wonder they do, for as President Uchtdorf said in his talk "The Merciful Obtain Mercy," loving others can help dispell judgmental attitudes.

"When our hearts are filled with the love of God, something good and pure happens to us. We 'keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous. For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world.'
"The more we allow the love of God to govern our minds and emotions—the more we allow our love for our Heavenly Father to swell within our hearts—the easier it is to love others with the pure love of Christ. As we open our hearts to the glowing dawn of the love of God, the darkness and cold of animosity and envy will eventually fade."

And when we don't love others, it can be easier for judgmental thoughts and attitudes to creep into our lives. As President Monson said in his talk "Charity Never Faileth,

"Mother Teresa, a Catholic nun who worked among the poor in India most of her life, spoke this profound truth: 'If you judge people, you have no time to love them.' The Savior has admonished, 'This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.' I ask: can we love one another, as the Savior has commanded, if we judge each other? And I answer—with Mother Teresa: no, we cannot."

When I think back on my experience with my friend I wish that I had not judged her. Luckily, she was not like me. She followed these guidelines set by Church leaders better than I did. Even though I was a harsh judge of her actions, she never once judged mine.

I still feel like judging others is a tricky topic, but luckily the leaders of the Church have outlined and testified of the way we can refrain from judging others while still making excellent judgments for what we want in life. 

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