Before my youngest brother got married, I mentioned to a non-LDS friend that we were throwing a bachelor party. My friend looked incredulous. "Why? You won't look at girls, or drink, or tell dirty jokes. What’s the point?" He was sure we were in for the most boring night of our lives.
As the oldest of six now-married brothers, I had to adapt the traditional bachelor party idea to our Latter-day Saint family. By the time the youngest was engaged, we’d learned to use this traditional male bonding experience to celebrate my brother’s spiritual growth and commitment to his sweetie. We didn’t just have a great time—we strengthened our relationship as brothers.
It was important to treat the probably high-strung groom to casual, light-hearted, and relaxing entertainment. At our last party, the evening started out with pizza, pop, and video games. This didn’t win us any awards for originality or spiritual value, but it gave everybody a good laugh.
Grooms with more clever siblings might find themselves treated to a fishing trip, horseback riding, or their favorite sporting event. The particular activity doesn’t matter as much as the lingering feeling of camaraderie does.
What about a bachelor party gift? Brides-to-be in our culture often get pretty great shower gifts. In fact, the idea for our male get-togethers really arose from our desire for “something like a bridal shower, only for us guys.” Avoiding the vulgar gifts of a typical bachelor party, we chose gifts to boost the groom’s confidence that he would succeed in marriage.
The struggle to stay focused in church isn't always the fault of the teacher or speaker. Here's a helpful list of ways to make sure you're doing your best to be engaged in Sunday meetings.
Let me make something clear from the get go: I don’t think church is boring. At least, not usually. Admittedly, there are times when I am walking out of my meetings wishing for something more. Maybe I’ve already forgotten the subject of the Sunday School lesson or zoned out on that last sacrament meeting talk because Brother Wilson speaks so . . . very . . . slow.
On days like that, I am often surprised when I hear someone else express how inspired they were. While nodding in agreement, I think to myself, “How is that possible!?” I usually conclude that clearly they are a better person than I and there is no way I will ever be that good, so I hold to my “church was boring today” opinion and make sure to keep all inner judgments to myself.
With these tips on wooing your wife, you'll sweep her off her feet and have her feeling like a lovestruck teenager all over again.
Dating was something enjoyed before marriage. But dating shouldn't end with marriage or kids or a hectic schedule—it should be a lifelong priority and pastime enjoyed with your spouse.
What is a Date?
Occasionally, you will want to make a fairly formal “appointment” with your wife. Preplanning goes a long way when you are trying to show your wife you care about her. Both of you will enjoy having an appointed time to anticipate spending together.
However, you do not need a formal appointment to count time spent with your wife as a “date.” My wife and I have had dates that bloomed from spontaneous invitations, such as, “Want to grab a bite to eat?” Or, “Do you want to go shopping with me?” In a questionnaire I created to gather ideas and responses from wives across the United States, many wives I surveyed suggested they enjoy these types of spontaneous dates.
In today’s economic conditions, it is more important now than ever to teach kids about money and financial responsibility. Yet many parents are unsure how to raise their kids with an appreciation for financial values.
“Don’t use real money. Use that magic piece of plastic.”
Those were the words then–bank president Neale Godfrey heard coming from the mouth of her young son. He had seen a toy that he “needed.” When she told him he didn’t need the toy, he encouraged her to use her credit card, or “that magic piece of plastic.”
“Here I was a bank president,” says Godfrey, “and my own children missed the lessons about money.”
Since that day, she has made it her personal mission to educate families and kids about money. Here are some of the best tips!
Parents should ensure that children know money doesn’t grow on trees, and that it certainly doesn’t come from a magic piece of plastic. Kids should understand that through chores, work, and possibly their allowance, they earn money; they are not entitled to having money.
Take a hint from this experienced husband and father of five, and your expecting wife will be so impressed and even more grateful for your kind words and thoughtful acts of service.
Several years ago, my wife was pregnant with our fifth child, and our oldest was eight. She was a full-time college student and a full-time mother, and she was stressed. I realized I had been clueless to her plight for a long time, and I started jotting down simple notes to remind myself of things I could do to make her life easier. Here are some do’s and don’ts to help both of you make it to the end with a stronger marriage than before you started. Some of these may be terribly obvious, but hey, sometimes we’re a little slow and need it spelled out, so don’t get upset if we should be doing these things already.