The Church's family proclamation isn't just for married couples--LDS singles can use its principles, too.
I was teaching a courtship and marriage Institute class for young single adults when I first read The Family: A Proclamation to the World (hereafter referred to as the Proclamation). In 602 words, 15 prophets, seers, and revelators gave us the Lord’s priorities for achieving successful, happy relationships. After studying this inspired proclamation, I felt it was perfect to use with my students. I explained to them that this proclamation was a revelation from God and therefore doctrine for the Church. It was a guide for them to make a proper choice in a marriage partner in order to achieve a successful and happy marriage.
Here are five guiding principles from the Proclamation that can help young single adults prepare for and find their eternal marriage partner.
Principle One: Put your faith and confidence in the Lord’s eternal plan of salvation.
Ask yourself: “Am I deliberately delaying marriage and avoiding it by personal choice?” “Am I actively preparing and seeking to find a compatible marriage partner?” “Do I need to reconsider my priorities?”
In recent years, some LDS adults have been postponing marriage until their later 20s and early 30s. President Thomas S. Monson, among other leaders of the Church, has counseled single adults of marriageable age to marry and have children. He said, “I realize there are many reasons why you may be hesitating to take the step of getting married. If you are concerned about providing financially for a wife and family, may I assure you there is no shame in a couple having to scrimp and save. It is generally during these challenging times that you will grow closer together as you learn to sacrifice and to make difficult decisions. Perhaps you are afraid of making the wrong choice. To this I say that you need to exercise faith. Find someone with whom you can be compatible. Realize that you will not be able to anticipate every challenge which may arise, but be assured that almost anything can be worked out if you are resourceful and if you are committed to making the marriage work.”
Jacob* started down a dark road when he was bullied at church. This is his story.
Disclaimer: Jacob's story is told from the perspective of his family. The details of what happened were constructed from chat logs, interviews his parents conducted with involved parties after his death, and Jacob's suicide notes.
Experts have said that bullies sometimes don't realize they're bullying, and the definition of bullying comes from how the recipient feels about the behavior. Jacob's suicide notes clearly showed that he felt he was bullied. Some readers may find the details of his story upsetting.
*Names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.
Jacob's family. Jacob stands next to his mother.
It’s been three years since President Uchtdorf delivered his now-iconic address entreating Church members that, “When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following: Stop it!”
For beloved LDS author Dean Hughes, writing comes as naturally as breathing. We got to chat with him and soon found out that he’s just as natural with words in real life as he is on paper—and twice as funny.
What motivated you to start writing?
My mother read to me when I was little, which was the beginning of my great love of stories. I became an avid reader in elementary school and tried to write stories of my own. By junior high, I was telling my friends I would be a writer when I grew up.
What drew you to LDS fiction?
It’s natural, of course, to write about your own culture and values, but I’ve always published both for Mormons and for general audiences. I’ve also written for all ages. I prefer to write about things I care about and let the subject and setting dictate the audience.
Which book are you most proud of?
I have this aversion to answering “favorite” questions. I can never settle on one choice. Why, for example, do people favor one color over all the others? That strikes me as strange. I really don’t have a favorite book. I’ve written too many kinds of books that simply don’t compare with one another. I will say that my Children of the Promise series has been the most widely accepted and, I think, appreciated. So I’ll designate Volume 5, As Long as I Have You, as my choice. It’s a novel that engaged my own emotions as much as anything I’ve written. But on the other hand, Soldier Boys has done really well with younger readers and . . . well, never mind. I’m supposed to choose only one. How about beige? I really like beige.
The "Mormon moment" launched the LDS religion into the spotlight in recent years. Sometimes it was flattering—sometimes it was not. Check out these six documentaries about Mormons trying to let their light so shine. From a rock star convert to a presidential candidate, you’ll love these fascinating Mormon documentaries.
With unprecedented access, this documentary tracks Romney from his first effort to win the Republican nomination in 2006 up through the 2012 elections. It reveals the "man behind the sound bites" in an authentic view the public rarely glimpsed during the media frenzy of a national campaign. See how one Mormon family pulled together to support one another during years of an emotional rollercoaster.
As Latter-day Saints, it can be easy to get caught up and let life happen instead of taking control of our days. Here are five habits LDS families might have—and why they should stop doing them right now.
1. Thinking that preparing and eating food is the goal at mealtime
Sometimes we slip into thinking that our need for nutrition is the objective of preparing and eating food. We grab breakfast, if at all, on the run. We eat lunch over work or alone to escape the hustle and bustle. We eat dinner in haste or whenever we are able.
Eating meals together during the week has all but disappeared in our society. President Ezra Taft Benson taught that “mealtime provides a wonderful time to review the activities of the day and to not only feed the body, but to feed the spirit as well” (“Strengthening the Family,” Improvement Era, Dec. 1970, 51).
Barbara B. Smith, former general president of the Relief Society, said, “Let us make our kitchens creative centers from which emanate some of the most delightful of all home experiences” (Ensign, “Follow Joyously,” Nov. 1980, 86). May I suggest that preparing and consuming food ought to be done with family relationships in mind, from start to finish. Children can help make a salad, butter the French bread, set the table, or stir a pot. Food preparation is an excellent time to talk to each other. The time we use to prepare food can and should be a family affair because preparing and eating food is not the primary objective of mealtime. Building relationships and fostering love is.