Ask Dr. Elia: Will my marriage survive his addiction to lust?

Dear Dr. Elia,

My husband was addicted to porn for the last four years before we got married. We've only been married for 10 months, and I've been dealing with it since I saw the signs of lust and found out he was viewing porn on television the second month we were married. He claims he has stopped viewing any type of porn and just struggles with the lust. I can't go anywhere with him without him struggling and looking at other women's bodies. He's doing better than he was at first, but it's still hard for me. My question is how do we deal with this and keep our marriage? He is trying to change, but although he knows trust will take time, he wants me to connect fully with him emotionally. Is it possible for me to do that?

Thank you,Marie

Dear Marie,

That is a tough way to start off your marriage, but you're certainly not alone. I receive questions similar to yours every day. Although I have written several articles on this subject (see previous articles at I would like to share with you a couple of thoughts. Anyone who's been addicted to porn is also very capable of dishonesty.

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