On day three the teens were all of the sudden completely different. They were obedient and generally wanted to communicate effectively. I was really impressed with their new personalities. I said to Hannah, “Hannah, why did you suddenly stop yelling and getting angry?”
She said, “Well, at my house if I yell I get my way or someone at least yells back. But, here you always stay so calm that it doesn’t do any good. So, I just figured I might as well try staying calm too.” Because Hannah saw that her aggression wouldn’t work, she was able to completely change the way she communicated. So what did Hannah give up her aggression for? We taught her assertiveness, which was a new way to get her way.