Make the Tough, Small Decisions
In marriages, we not only have to make life-changing decisions with our spouse, but we are also called upon to make small daily decisions about who we will be and how we will treat each other. But, as President Monson shows, sometimes sacrificing a little of our own pride goes a long way in building a life of happiness and love.
“It has been said that history turns on small hinges, and so do people’s lives. Decisions determine destiny. That is why it is worthwhile to look ahead, to set a course, to be at least partly ready when the moment of decision comes. . . .
For a moment let me take you with me back to my college days. As a student at the University of Utah, I was attending a dance on campus . . . when a young lady from East High School danced by with her partner. . . . I just took one look and decided that there was a young lady I wanted to meet. But she danced away. I might never have seen her again.
About two months later I did. One day while waiting for the streetcar in Salt Lake City, I looked across the way and couldn’t believe my eyes. There was the young lady I had seen dancing across the floor. She was standing with another young lady and a young man whom I remembered from grade school days. Unfortunately, I couldn’t remember his name. I had a decision to make. . . . I walked up to that young man and said, ‘Hello, my old friend from grade school days.’
He looked at me blankly and said, ‘I can’t quite remember your name.’ I told him my name. He told me his name, and then he introduced me to the girl who later became my wife. That day I made a note in my student directory to call on Frances Beverly Johnson, and I did. That decision, I believe, was perhaps the most important that I have ever made” (President Thomas S. Monson, “Whom Shall I Marry?”).