Things NOT to Say to Someone Who is Infertile

As I have struggled with infertility, it has also come with struggles with family and friends. Many of them, usually who do not have the same problem, say, "I have no idea what to say." This is common. Let me tell everyone out there, IT IS OKAY! Infertility is a touchy subject. It is hard to understand if you have never been through it. Good heavens, It is hard to understand if you have been through it!

Let me just give some pointers on things not to say. They are cliche, and actually become jokes among us infertiles.

1. "It will happen in the Lord's time." Let me begin by saying I promise an infertile woman is VERY aware of the Lord's time. She must have total faith in it to even get through. The Lord's time is not predictable to any of us, so this almost seems like someone saying, "It will happen yesterday, today, or tomorrow." It is not really very comforting.

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