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{Poll} The Wedding Thank-you

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It's a given that thank-you cards should be sent when people come to your wedding and give you gifts. But the exact manner in which this should be done seems cluttered by a lot of rules and sometimes debate. I've seen some that are monogrammed in sealed envelopes and others that are just postcards, some with photos and some not. Some mention the gift (and some mention the wrong gift), and some add a personal note while others are more formulaic. What's okay and what's not? You tell me.

How do you feel about getting gift thank-yous?

I expect them; it's common courtesy.
They're nice, but I'm not hurt or offended if they don't come.
Not necessary. People get busy!

When is the latest you should be sending out a thank-you card?

2 weeks-1 month after returning from your honeymoon.
1-2 months after returning from your honeymoon.
2-3 months after returning from your honeymoon.
3-4 months after returning from your honeymoon.
4-6 months after returning from your honeymoon.
Better late than never!

How important is it to handwrite everything?

Very. The card and addresses should both be handwritten.
Somewhat. The card should be handwritten, but it's okay to use address labels..
Not very. If typing saves your hand days of cramping, that's okay.

What should be included in the thank you?

Just your gratitude, but nothing specific.
Thanks for the specific gift but nothing more.
Thanks for the specific gift and how you plan to use it.
Thanks for the specific gift and a personal note.
Thanks for the specific gift, how you plan to use it, and a personal note.

What about gifts of money?

Thank them for the specific amount and explain how you will use it, just like other gifts.
Thank them for the specific amount, but you don't need to explain how you will use it.
Don't name the amount, but you should still explain how you'll use it.
Don't name the amount, and don't bother explaining how you'll use it.