Alisa Snell

By Alisa Snell

February 08, 2017 11:31 AM MST

Before movies and magazines proliferated our society, one’s perception of attraction was limited to the real people one knew in the community. Thus, average people were often seen as beautiful in a variety of ways and the occasionally striking beauties were allowed to be seen as less so as they aged. This allowed for realistic expectations that did not associate exceptional beauty as the defining quality that makes someone lovable. Relationships were based on more common and realistic expectations.

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Latter-day Saint Life

Relationships: Why Good Can Be Best

By Alisa Snell

January 16, 2017 12:37 PM MST

Most LDS singles strive to be their best in every aspect of life. They fear settling for something that is mediocre in dating and love. They hope for amazing (and even enviable) relationships.

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Do You Act Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure in Dating or Relationships?

By Alisa Snell

August 01, 2016 09:00 AM MDT

Everyone wants lasting love and secure attachments, but sadly many people don’t act in a way that supports such. For instance, singles often engage in a pursue/withdraw dance that appears too eager or too indifferent, whereas couples frequently get caught in patterns of criticism, nagging, and whining followed by withdrawal, resent, and disconnection (or vice versa). Discover if you’re acting anxious or avoidant in your dating and relationships and how you can become secure (individually and as a couple).

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Latter-day Saint Life

Why You’re Amazing and Still Single (Part 3)

By Alisa Snell

September 09, 2015 02:27 PM MDT

Everyone knows someone who is amazing and still single and they can't figure out why. They’re attractive, educated, and date great people, but year after year they remain single. Is their struggle to connect and commit their fault, their partner’s, or both? What keeps them from creating lasting love and how can they break this pattern?

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3 Dangers of Dating the "Best" Singles

By Alisa Snell

December 20, 2012 05:10 AM MST

It is natural for singles to want to date someone who is attractive, successful, and socially skilled. Their ability to date such desirable individuals seems to say that they are just as accomplished. However, as a dating coach, who has spent 17 years as a marriage counselor, I can’t help but see the danger that surrounds this desire to date the best. Singles usually don’t realize the common thinking errors in this mentality, and if these are not confronted they will ruin relationships.

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{Single Saints} Dating DOs and DON'Ts for a Fun and Fabulous Holiday

By Alisa Snell

November 16, 2012 05:05 AM MST

There are many "dos and donʼts" that singles need to observe relative to parties, gift giving, and define-the-relationship conversations over the holidays. To navigate these issues effectively, read my previous article on "5 Secrets to Dating Success During the Holidays." The advice there is essential to avoiding the major pitfalls that many singles experience. The focus of this article is on the dos and donʼts for making your Holidays fun and fabulous.

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Making the Most of Your Singles Ward

By Alisa Snell

August 13, 2012 04:05 AM MDT

Many singles find challenges in their singles ward. They struggle to feel included within groups or cliques. Hanging out seems to occur more than dating. Even when dates do occur, the gossip or discomfort that follows can further discourage future dates and can even cause singles to want to leave the ward. The good news is, there are many techniques that can help singles make the most of their singles ward and can even help them find a mate.

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When Should Singles Reveal Their Issues to Dating Partners?

By Alisa Snell

July 02, 2012 04:44 AM MDT

Numerous singles have an issue or insecurity in their life that is difficult to discuss. For some itʼs family issues, abuse experiences, health problems, depression, or anxiety. For others itʼs their financial problems, eating disorders, pornography struggles, or excessive debt. Even when the issue is less severe, like talking about past relationships or revealing education and career success (or failures), all issues evoke a fear of criticism or rejection.

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I'm Anxious - So Let's Break Up

By Alisa Snell

April 11, 2012 04:04 AM MDT

Dating can be stressful. It isn’t easy to interpret what the other person is doing or saying, what it means, or how to react. The uncertainty of when or if someone will call or do their part is painful and makes the person feel powerless. Additionally, singles fear missing the warning signs of bad, abusive, or neglectful relationships. And they fear wasting others' (or their own) time.

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Almost everyone knows an amazing woman who has so much to offer, yet the good man she is dating can’t seem to commit. Despite all the right signs, they not only don't get married, they break up. But a woman can do many things to help avoid this.

He's Amazing and Still Single . . . and What She Can Do about It

By Alisa Snell

March 12, 2012 04:07 AM MDT

Last month’s article, "He’s Amazing and Still Single! Why?", described a group of highly eligible, attractive, and socially skilled men who, in spite of the fact that they date great women, remain single year after year.

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He's Amazing and Still Single - WHY?

By Alisa Snell

February 06, 2012 05:06 AM MST

Every ward has one or two single men who are simply amazing, and yet, year after year, they remain single.

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Single Women: How to Get More Attention, Affection, and Commitment Now

By Alisa Snell

January 09, 2012 05:04 AM MST

A single woman may mistakenly believe:

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Single Men: How to Get More Attention, Affection, and Commitment Now

By Alisa Snell

January 09, 2012 05:03 AM MST

A single man may mistakenly believe:

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{Single Saints} 5 Secrets to Dating Success During the Holidays

By Alisa Snell

December 12, 2011 05:04 AM MST

The holidays often have huge romantic expectations and disappointments. If you are in a relationship (or wanting to be in one), you canʼt afford to make these five common mistakes. However, if you apply the accompanying five secrets, you may instead find lasting love.

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Why Your Sister, Friend, or Daughter Isn't Dating: Flirting 101 for Today's Singles

By Alisa Snell

November 07, 2011 05:06 AM MST

As a licensed marriage and family therapist and dating coach, I get a lot of questions from concerned family, friends, and colleges who are confused about why their fun and fabulous daughter, sister, or female neighbor isn’t dating.

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Why Your Sister, Friend, or Daughter Isn't Dating - and How You Can Help

By Alisa Snell

November 07, 2011 05:03 AM MST

In addition to forwarding the article "Why Your Sister, Friend, or Daughter Isn’t Dating: Flirting 101 for Today’s Singles" (click here to read), you might ask, “How can I help the singles I love?”

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Dating Expert: Talking So Men Listen

By Alisa Snell

October 10, 2011 04:06 AM MDT

And communication tips for men, too

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