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BYU Professor: “You May Need to Lower Your Expectations" About Marriage

“Don’t feel that your marriage has to be like anyone else’s,” Ogletree said. “Create a celestial marriage for each other, and don’t worry so much about what other people are doing. As long as both of you are happy, that is what matters.

When two people are married and blend their lives together, it is normal for life to change drastically, according to BYU associate professor of church history and doctrine Mark Ogletree.

Ogletree is the co-author of several books on marriage and family and has worked at a private practice for over 20 years as a marriage and family therapist.

Some of the biggest changes married couples face include understanding the differences between men and women, recognizing unrealistic expectations and learning how to communicate, solve problems, express love and establish a religious routine, Ogletree said.

“With another person to care for in your life, that means there is another schedule to manage, another personality to deal with and different ways of doing things that must be discussed,” Ogletree said. “Everyone who enters the marriage arena must be willing to make changes and adjustments.”

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