We are so blessed to have a prophet who has helped counsel us against dangerous myths that we sometimes learn in a society full of chick flicks and romance novels. Thomas S. Monson teaches us of a much more profound type of love than passion, romance, or love at first sight when he says:
"Choose a companion carefully and prayerfully; and when you are married, be fiercely loyal one to another. Priceless advice comes from a small framed plaque I once saw in the home of an uncle and aunt. It read, 'Choose your love; love your choice.'" When it comes to marriage, we can help determine our own fate and destiny.
Some of you won’t like what I have to say here. In fact, if you consider yourself “a romantic”, this article might initially anger you. But, please read the entire article prior to chiding me with your remarks in the comment section! Honestly, understanding this concept can save marriages!
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The Myth of the “Soul Mate”
The “soul mate myth” is a well-beloved myth indeed. Those that hold this expectation generally believe that there is one, and only one, right person to marry – their soul mate.
The idea of a soul mate is quite a romantic notion and has been the plot of countless cherished books and movies. But, please pay attention to me – this myth is incredibly dangerous. Let me explain!
Dangers Caused by the “Soul Mate” Myth
There is one major hazard for those who prescribe to this myth. Those who assume that marital bliss is a result of finding their one “soul mate” dangerously shift responsibility away from improving themselves or nurturing their marriage.
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Learn more about the true nature of love with Love Is a Choice.
Elder Lynn G. Robbins teaches us that love is more than a feeling — it is a commitment, a promise to be responsible, respectful, and responsive to the needs and experiences of other. And like any other action we undertake, perfecting the act of love requires a lifetime of practice and good choices.