Dating

February 19, 2021 04:24 PM MST
Editor's Note: The views, information, or opinions expressed in this column are solely those of the author. Readers should consider each unique situation. This content is not meant to be a substitute for individual, professional advice.
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February 13, 2021 12:25 PM MST
I am huge believer in New Year’s resolutions. I love that the start of the new year is a time where collectively many people think about new ways to improve—even if it means that for a few weeks, the gym is a bit more crowded than normal.
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By  Emily Abel
August 25, 2020 11:30 AM MDT
When I tuned in to an episode of the Sunday on Monday podcast, the last thing I was expecting to hear was dating advice.
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February 18, 2020 08:05 PM MST
Provo is well-known as the home of Brigham Young University, but the college town is also making headlines for being the no. 1 best area for dating in the US.
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February 14, 2020 01:00 PM MST
Since 1992, The New York Times’ “Vows” column has featured how couples “got from dating to ‘I do.’” When the column started about three decades ago, it was common for romantic relationships to start through mutual friends, family, or in college before getting hitched.
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October 31, 2019 05:55 PM MDT
As scary as talking (or asking) about problems with pornography may be, not talking about it can lead to devastating problems later. Each individual pornography problem is unique and challenging, and you may not even know if it’s an issue or how to bring it up with the person you’re dating, so it’s important that you seek guidance from the Spirit. There’s no single solution for every situation, but in this article, we offer some suggestions for those of you who might be wondering:
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October 16, 2019 08:47 AM MDT
I was taught, as were many girls, that you should always say yes to a boy who asks you to a dance and even a casual date. Although times have changed, that idea still persists, and while on the surface it seems great, I want to explore what we are teaching our teens—both girls and boys—when we enforce that rule.
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October 04, 2019 01:06 PM MDT
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By  LDS Living
October 01, 2019 07:10 PM MDT
When Brittany was a teenager, her parents divorced left her with overwhelming feelings of abandonment. But while searching for acceptance, Brittany became involved in an abusive relationship.
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September 20, 2019 09:03 AM MDT
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Fun
September 19, 2019 08:40 AM MDT
It's been nearly three and a half years since the final episode of Downton Abbey appeared on PBS, and much has happened with the Crawley family and their friends since then—and even bigger things are on their way. On September 20, the Downton Abbey feature film will be released in American theaters, and many fans are excited to reconnect with their favorite characters from the show. But what does this historical drama set in the English countryside have to do with Latter-day Saints? Here are some humorous Downton Abbey GIFs that can help members navigate the laughs and peculiarities of Latter-day Saint dating.
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July 26, 2019 05:30 PM MDT
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July 13, 2019 01:15 PM MDT
The following article originally ran on LDS Living in April 2017.
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By  Zack Oates
July 06, 2019 09:00 AM MDT
The following article originally ran on LDS Living in September 2015.
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By  LDS Living
June 20, 2019 12:17 PM MDT
June—the month where Facebook seems to nearly burst with engagement announcements, first-look videos, and calls for mailing addresses.
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June 01, 2019 11:14 AM MDT
This week, Emily and Erik Orton's book, Seven at Sea," which recounts the couple’s 10-month sailing adventure with their five children, was recommended by The New York Times as one of the best travel reads of the summer. On the 31st episode of All In, the Latter-day Saint couple talks navigating the choppy seas of marriage. The Ortons shared practical advice from their personal experience for strengthening marriage.
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April 13, 2019 09:29 AM MDT
My husband and I are infertility survivors. After learning that our mortal bodies were not able to create children, our hearts began to turn toward adoption. This decision came with serious prayer, contemplation, and faith. For me, there was even some healthy mourning for the dream of being able to physically carry and deliver a child.
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March 29, 2019 05:00 PM MDT
Latter-day Saints are known for marrying young, having brief courtships and engagements, and of course, for over-the-top marriage proposals. Although no stereotype fits every Latter-day Saint love story, here are a few engagement stories that show just how far some will go to ask for the hand of the one they love.
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March 13, 2019 09:59 AM MDT
Hanging in Tammy Hill’s home are three photographs: one of Tammy and Mark Mulford on their wedding day, one of Jeffrey and Juanita Hill on their wedding day, and one of Jeffrey and Tammy with their combined family of 12 children. Written in vinyl lettering on the wall beside the images are the words “All because four people fell in love.”
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February 12, 2019 04:48 PM MST
Imagine you are on a playground, and you spot a giant, old-school teeter-totter. It's bright yellow and it rises well above your head on the upside. You look around the playground, find someone who looks well suited to be your partner and together you climb onto your opposing seats. Rising and falling, you bounce up and down, enjoying the ride. Feeling confident that you and your partner have found a good rhythm, you tuck your feet up off the ground, trusting that the balance and rhythm will continue. Then, just as you begin to relax in your new position, your partner, across from you and on their way back to the ground, turns their legs to the side and casually rolls off their seat as they touch the ground. High in the air on the other side it hits you. You're about to come crashing down.
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February 08, 2019 05:09 PM MST
If you’re suffering from a spouse’s betrayal, I’m offering a free online course for LDS Living readers to help you through it.
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February 04, 2019 12:00 PM MST
Marriage has its ups and downs, and there's always room for improvement. Whether you feel your relationship is on the rocks or smooth sailing, these recommendations might make you think about your marriage in a different way.
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January 07, 2019 10:00 PM MST
Missionaries can deal with a slew of issues, and as a parent, sibling, or friend reading and writing letters from afar, you may feel helpless. But you’re not. Check out some ways you can help them with some of these most common struggles, and some prophetic counsel that may help as well.
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December 31, 2018 10:00 PM MST
I recently went through a pretty significant breakup. Significant because over the course of the relationship, there were several times when I believed this was it—this was the guy, and I was done looking. I am not going to get into the details of our breakup, but I will say it ended mutually and kindly and with plenty of sadness on both of our parts.
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Fun
December 15, 2018 03:00 PM MST
I was teaching a courtship and marriage Institute class for young single adults when I first read The Family: A Proclamation to the World (hereafter referred to as the Proclamation). In 602 words, 15 prophets, seers, and revelators gave us the Lord’s priorities for achieving successful, happy relationships. After studying this inspired proclamation, I felt it was perfect to use with my students. I explained to them that this proclamation was a revelation from God and therefore doctrine for the Church. It was a guide for them to make a proper choice in a marriage partner in order to achieve a successful and happy marriage.
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December 10, 2018 06:07 PM MST
This is part of an ongoing series on healing from infidelity. To reserve a spot in my free online class of the same name for LDS Living readers, click here.
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December 01, 2018 03:00 PM MST
What powerful advice: I often have single friends that turn to me for counsel and guidance. And the most common advice I give? “Square yourself with Jesus. You so desperately want a relationship and marriage that you fail to realize what you need is Christ.”
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November 28, 2018 04:48 PM MST
Sandra and Steve are a loving Latter-day Saint couple with an ongoing disagreement about Sabbath activities. Sandra likes to listen to sacred music and work on family history projects after church. Steve spends time with their teenage sons, watching football, or shooting hoops in the driveway. Sandra resents Steve for making sports part of their family’s Sabbath routine. Steve feels Sandra is paying attention to dead relatives at the expense of living ones.
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Fun
By  LDS Living
November 28, 2018 02:37 PM MST
It's no secret Latter-day Saints take finding an eternal companion very seriously, most of the time.
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By  LDS Living
November 05, 2018 02:57 PM MST
Twenty-two-year-old BYU-I student Josh Peters was 11-years-old the first time he viewed pornography—and that experience led to seven years of pornography use, shame, broken relationships, addiction, and secrecy. But Peters also found healing, recovery, and a renewed faith in Heavenly Father and the Savior's Atonement. Thinking about his journey of recovery, Peters told Nate Eaton from East Idaho News, "It's helped me understand myself and understand my faith in God."
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By  Jon Cooper
November 01, 2018 08:00 AM MDT
From children to adults, everyone has hobbies—activities they particularly enjoy doing. But sometimes the types of hobbies we pursue, the amount of time and money that is spent on them, and how helpful or relevant our hobbies are can influence our decisions about which hobbies to pursue. Often, our hobbies stem from our talents. In the scriptures, we are told that “every [one] is given a gift by the Spirit of God” (D&C 46:11) and that these gifts, also known as our talents, are given to us “for the benefit of the children of God” (D&C 46:26). One interpretation of several of Christ’s parables (Matthew 5:15-16, Matthew 25:15-30) implies that we are to improve and share these talents with the world. It doesn’t matter what your talent is—kayaking, dancing, public speaking—we are given these talents so that others may see our good works and glorify God. No one talent (or hobby) is greater than any other. The what of our hobbies matters little when compared to the how and why we do them.
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September 06, 2018 09:46 AM MDT
As a marriage counselor, people are frequently asking me to help them with their “communication issues.” But what exactly does that mean? To address communication problems with couples in counseling, I often point to the four dangerous patterns identified by Dr. John Gottman from the University of Washington after years of research.
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September 01, 2018 02:44 PM MDT
As a single sister in the Church, I’ve gone on my fair share of dates (more than I can remember in my 10 years of dating). Going out with someone who has a problem with pornography was never my goal in life. In fact, I had tried to avoid it at all costs. But as I got older, I realized that finding someone who had never been mixed up in pornography was going to be trickier than I thought.
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August 30, 2018 12:49 PM MDT
The Ensign recently published an article written by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland focusing on the remarkable life of President Henry B. Erying. Among the incredible stories shared was a rebuke President Erying received from the Spirit that changed his life as well as the beautiful story of when President Erying first met his future wife. Read the full article here.
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August 23, 2018 09:00 AM MDT
My wife and I recently celebrated our 27th wedding anniversary. It has been a wonderful 27 years. It has also been a difficult 27 years. I’ve had to put up with some things; she’s had to put up with a lot more. All successful marriages are a composite of happy and sad experiences. The key is being able to get through the difficult times.
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August 14, 2018 01:50 PM MDT
What a powerful thought from this Ensign article about how agency influences our relationships: "It is much more meaningful to say to the one you love, 'No, you weren’t chosen by someone else; I chose you. And I will continue to choose you every day of our life for eternity.'"
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August 02, 2018 08:00 AM MDT
No one would have guessed that Debby Montgomery Johnson, a former paralegal, Air Force intelligence officer, and bank teller, would be taken for over a million dollars by a scammer on an online Latter-day Saint dating site. In fact, no one would even know if she hadn’t spoken up about it. Debby could have continued to hide behind her smile, keeping her secret buried deep.
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July 27, 2018 01:05 PM MDT
As a professional matchmaker, I have been privileged to hear thousands of heartbreaking, beautiful, and amazing dating stories from singles in the 31–45 age range, otherwise known as mid-singles. Some are divorced, others widowed, and many have not yet been married.
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July 12, 2018 02:12 PM MDT
A little while ago I went on a date with a new guy. He was very nice and polite, active in Church, good-looking, and seemed to have a stable job.
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June 06, 2018 06:00 PM MDT
Keep your eye on the ball,” whispers the golf coach, encouraging the player to maintain her focus solely on the goal, which is to hit the ball in precisely the right way to get a hole in one. Well, maybe someday.
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June 04, 2018 08:05 AM MDT
Everyone wants to be happy—and for good reason. Happy people earn more money and are more likely to get married and stay married. They also attract more friends, are more productive at work, and even outlive their gloomier counterparts by about nine years.
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May 26, 2018 09:09 AM MDT
As a young couple struggling to establish a spiritual foundation in a temporal world, my husband and I have often found it challenging to reconcile demands of our educational pursuits, jobs, church callings, and other activities with the commandment to “cleave unto” one another (D&C 42:22). Preoccupations from daily responsibilities make it difficult to disconnect from the world and be present for each other.
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By  Yvonne Liu
May 18, 2018 09:24 AM MDT
Do Latter-day saints believe in soul mates?
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April 26, 2018 10:00 PM MDT
Wedding season is in full swing! And for LDS couples, one great way to keep wedding costs down is by having a reception in the church's cultural hall. Skeptical? Check out these amazing transformations we found on Pinterest!
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April 21, 2018 09:00 AM MDT
I never had the goal to marry an Apostle. My goal was to draw close to Heavenly Father and make my life as meaningful and happy as I could. Because I value and believe in the plan of salvation, I wanted all the blessings associated with it. That included someday, in this life or the next, finding a companion that I loved and respected, a man I could trust and depend on, who would be loyal to me and active in the Church. I wanted to marry a man who loved the Lord more than he loved me, whose allegiance was to His eternal covenants. It would simply follow that such a man would be true to me and our future family.
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April 04, 2018 04:13 PM MDT
Take a peek into the life of Mark Madsen, assistant coach to the Los Angeles Lakers, former NBA player, husband, father, and faithful member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
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March 24, 2018 03:00 PM MDT
As a single Latter-day Saint, church experiences are different from the “norm.” I took some time to talk with a dozen or so singles and former singles (particularly those who spent some real time being single past the age of 21) and invited them to tell the rest of us what they’d like us to know about their experience as singles in the Church.
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March 22, 2018 04:33 PM MDT
When I was about 5 years old, someone gave me a small, iridescent butterfly pin with hinged wings that formed a tiny clasp. I loved how it held securely to my shirt so it would never get lost. I loved that even with my small fingers I could make its wings move, like the wings of a real butterfly. I still remember how much it delighted me.
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By  LDS Living
March 21, 2018 12:00 PM MDT
Wedding season is here. The weather is warming up and the invitations are increasing. And while this is a great time to excitedly anticipate starting a new family, it's also a crucial time for you to keep building a strong foundation for that family.
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By  LDS Living
March 10, 2018 02:00 PM MST
We all know that marriage is a big step. And while some of these books are geared specifically to the engaged or newly married, they are all great resources to help anyone prepare and start their marriage off on the right foot.
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February 16, 2018 06:00 PM MST
The New York Times shared the love story of Olympic hopeful Courtney Webb and her new husband, Ryan Spencer, in the article "Headfirst With a Helmet, and Headlong Without." The two met on the Mormon dating app, Mutual.
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February 14, 2018 02:16 PM MST
During the Valentine's season, everyone's thoughts turn toward romance and love. But Elder Jeffrey R. Holland has explained how we should love others, not only on one day or during one month, but through every trial, struggle, and joyous moment in our lives.
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Fun
February 13, 2018 10:04 PM MST
What happens when an outsider is suddenly thrust into the world of Mormon dating? Well, you get some hilariously candid moments as well as insights into just how peculiar it is when peculiar people decide to search for their eternal soul mates.
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By  LDS Living
February 10, 2018 01:51 PM MST
We all know that Mormons are a little obsessed with fantasy and science fiction.
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By  LDS Living
February 10, 2018 09:34 AM MST
We asked our readers on Facebook about some of the worst things someone has said to them on a first date. We absolutely loved what we read. The responses were too hilarious not to share.
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February 07, 2018 03:02 PM MST
Let’s face it. Breaking up is hard to do. Sayings like, “Let’s just be friends,” or “It’s not you—it’s me,” sometimes work. I mean, they’re classics if not a bit overused and perhaps a little trite. But did you know that the scriptures happen to be an excellent source of creative breakup lines? Here are just a few:
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January 31, 2018 04:13 PM MST
An anonymous letter with only a post office box address was delivered to Elder Oaks. The letter expressed a concern so decisively that he felt to share both it and his reply with me. They state very well the struggle with self-worth so many of us feel in this life.
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January 13, 2018 02:00 PM MST
Twenty-nine years ago, 15-year-old Nicole poured out her heart in a handwritten letter addressed "To my dear future daughter" after a seminary teacher challenged the class to write a letter to a future spouse or child.
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December 28, 2017 04:16 PM MST
We learn who we are and what we can expect from others in the context of relationships. Some of what we learn from our mortal relationships encourages us to trust our Father in Heaven and His Son, Jesus Christ, and to reach optimistically toward Them. Some of what we learn can interfere with that trust, making it hard to comprehend Their love, let alone be filled with it.
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November 23, 2017 03:10 PM MST
The following is an excerpt from Memorable Stories and Parables by Boyd K. Packer.
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