Don’t Let Money Distract from What Matters
Money troubles and arguments surrounding them consistently appear as one of the leading causes of divorce. There’s no doubt that debt and differences in how spouses view money can cause a lot of tension and strain, yet it’s silly to bicker and resent one another over something so fleeting. We can eliminate arguments over finances if we develop a gospel-centric view of money and simplify our spending. This is something Sister Kristen Oaks noticed as she served with members in the Philippines.
“The world’s expectation that happiness is inextricably bound to owning lots of material goods runs directly counter to prophetic admonitions to marry and live simply. . . . During our service in the Philippines, Elder Oaks counseled young couples and their families to abandon the practice of extravagant wedding celebrations. . . . More than one couple with limited means went into the Church distribution center in Manila to purchase a simple CTR ring before they were married in the temple. They concentrated on the eternal union, not on a one-day blowout celebrations with expensive, superfluous bangles and bling. These Filipino couples will have a greater chance of happiness in marriage as they focus on each other and on their covenants rather than on trying to impress people with expensive overindulgence” (Kristen M. Oaks, A Single Voice).
In a Church that is focused on family, singles can feel somewhat discounted and discouraged. Oftentimes the very resources meant to support people can inadvertently cause pain. In the book A Single Voice, Sister Kristen Oaks addresses questions such as:
What is “the single best thing you can do” as a single person in the Church? Are there ways to ease the transition from a singles ward to a home ward? What are some specific ways to make single life happier and more fulfilling? What are some tips for coping with the unique challenges of holidays? What are the key decisions that singles need to make?