In LDS culture, we tend to fixate on marriage as the epitome of everything. While our focus on forever families can bring everlasting happiness, sometimes we forget to mention in our talks or during Sunday School the real, nitty-gritty, everyday challenges that come with marriage, children, family differences, divorce, etc.
But in a recent Facebook post, President Russell M. Nelson tackled the source of many of these problems that arise in marriage, as well as sharing a way we can overcome our frustrations:
Mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in a marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concerted effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed if each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness.
President Thomas S Monson has said: “To find real happiness, we must seek for it in a focus outside ourselves. No one has learned the meaning of living until he has surrendered his ego to the service of his fellow man. Service to others is akin to duty—the fulfillment of which brings true joy.”
Harmony in marriage comes only when one esteems the welfare of his or her spouse among the highest of priorities. When that really happens, a celestial marriage becomes a reality, bringing great joy in this life and in the life to come.