7 Things You Shouldn't Say to Stay-at-Home Moms

by | Aug. 20, 2018

4. If you’re tired, why don’t you nap when the baby does?

This is a great idea in theory. However, when babies (or toddlers, for that matter) are sleeping, it is often my only opportunity to check a few things off my to-do list. This is when I load the dishwasher, fold laundry, scrub toilets, mop floors, and pick up toys. If there is enough time, I might even send an email or return a phone call or two.

5. I could never do what you do. I’d die without adult conversation.

Intentional or not, this statement implies that a stay-at-home mom is somehow not as intelligent as those who don’t stay at home with the kids all day. To be honest, as a stay-at-home mom, I did crave adult conversation and intellectual stimulation. While nurturing children is incredibly rewarding, don’t assume it means we don’t yearn to improve our minds and spirits, too.

6. I’m sure you’re not the only one who’s ever wasted money on a college degree.

I have yet to meet a stay-at-home mom who regrets getting a college education. To imply that it is being wasted is to imply that the sole purpose of an education is to earn money. An educated mother can enrich the lives of her children and set a great example for them. And yes, having a college degree is a lifesaver if unforeseen circumstances require her to unexpectedly enter the workforce (which is exactly what happened to me).

7. Huh, I thought your house would be spotless.

Even if I’m home all day, it doesn’t mean I have time to constantly clean my house. Maybe one of my children is sick. Maybe I am sick. Or maybe I decided my children needed my attention more than the kitchen sink filled with dirty dishes.

Whether I am a stay-at-home or working mother, I am a mother, and moments with my children—whenever I have them—are what carry me through the hard times and make everything I do worthwhile.

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