I believe one of the best ways you can help a returned missionary is by inviting them to spend some time with you, one on one.
On their missions, missionaries learn how to connect with people, ask inspired questions, and listen sincerely. Those same skills can become incredibly valuable as they begin the next chapter of their lives.
While serving in Brazil, my wife and I took turns sharing short lessons at the end of every zone conference that we called “Dicas de Vida”—Portuguese for “Life Tips.” These short lessons covered a wide range of topics, including dating, parenting, mental health, finances, leadership, and networking. The missionaries loved these little trainings and were always eager for more.
One of our favorite Dicas de Vida was the “10 Interview Challenge.” We encouraged our missionaries, upon their return home, to make a list of 10 people they admire—including anyone whose work or life path inspires them. With the help of parents, Church leaders, and mentors, they could reach out to each person and ask whether they would be willing to share their story over lunch or in a short conversation.
These aren’t job interviews, and the returned missionary doesn’t need to impress anyone. Their only responsibility is to be curious and learn. These conversations can help them explore possible career or life trajectories, discover areas of study, build a network of mentors, and occasionally open unexpected doors.
As you support your returned missionary, you might extend the 10 Interview Challenge. A few intentional conversations can help them begin to see the possibilities ahead. If 10 interviews feel like a mountain they can’t climb, you can encourage them to start with just one and celebrate that small win.
Read more from Davis Smith in his new book The Next Ten Years (available for preorder now), and tune in to his episode of the All In podcast.
