Jonathan Swinton

Swinton Counseling
September 06, 2018 09:46 AM MDT
As a marriage counselor, people are frequently asking me to help them with their “communication issues.” But what exactly does that mean? To address communication problems with couples in counseling, I often point to the four dangerous patterns identified by Dr. John Gottman from the University of Washington after years of research.
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November 17, 2017 04:57 PM MST
It was a typical day in my couples counseling practice. I listened to a heartbroken spouse tearfully share her pain regarding what her husband had done. She had just discovered he had been cheating on her for the past six months with one of his old high school girlfriends. “How did this happen?” I asked the husband. He began to cry as well. He didn’t understand how it happened. He mentioned making jokes with the woman on a social media site one day when he saw her post something humorous. From there he described a tale of secrecy that moved to full-blown sexual indiscretions. His wife found out because he left his phone on with one of her messages loaded.
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November 05, 2017 10:38 PM MST
Swinton & Associates Counseling is calling for final registrants to its Seminars for Stronger Relationships on November 11, 2017, at the Karen Gail Miller Conference Center in Sandy, Utah. Individuals and couples can still register at
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October 04, 2017 05:53 PM MDT
Swinton & Associates Counseling is pleased to announce that the Seminars for Stronger Relationships is expanding with a major event November 11, 2017, at the Karen Gail Miller Conference Center in Sandy, Utah.
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December 11, 2012 05:05 AM MST
There has been a shift in culture and expectations among young people today. “What’s in it for me?” is now the constant refrain. Children are especially susceptible to this attitude, as they absorb it everywhere. They watch television where parents are disrespected by their kids. They see manipulative advertising convincing them to expect their parents to provide the newest best thing.
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July 10, 2012 04:06 AM MDT
People ask me all the time if fighting about money is one of the most common problems in a marriage. But surprisingly to many, I don’t believe money is the root cause of many marital problems. Financial disagreements, though common, are more accurately a symptom of upbringing and other underlying problems that exist in relationships. The money itself is not the real issue.
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May 08, 2012 04:05 AM MDT
When we talk about families, we frequently think of a certain ideal; a family where both parents are there, the kids are all little angels, and life at home is like living in a musical titled When There’s Love at Home. There is certainly merit in striving for a close-knit, loving home. However, real-life family for many people is vastly different from the ideal.
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April 24, 2012 04:05 AM MDT
One of the most common types of couples who seek help from me in couples counseling are new empty nesters. They often say something like, “Now that our kids are gone, we don’t know what to talk about” or “We are having difficulty getting used to being alone together so much.” If you are an empty nester, does this sound familiar? If not, do you want to make sure this doesn’t happen to your marriage?
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February 14, 2012 05:05 AM MST
We live in a society where criticism has become the norm and respect a thing of the past. This is, in my professional opinion, one of the primary reasons families across the United States are deteriorating.
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December 20, 2011 05:05 AM MST
Do you and your spouse go out on dates? If so, how frequently? If not, why? One of the most common things couples stop doing over time is regular dating. In counseling, I generally ask couples if they go out together. I am often met with a laugh, or some comment about how that stopped when they had kids. So, this begs the question: Is dating really necessary for healthy marriages?
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November 22, 2011 02:51 PM MST
As we approach the beginning of the holiday season, I gear up for a busy time of couples counseling. There always seems to be an influx of couples coming to see me for counseling help after Thanksgiving and Christmas. These holidays can test family relationships, strain finances, and highlight the lengthy winter that lies ahead. However, couples can combat some of these tendencies and strengthen their relationships through the holidays. One of the best ways is to help your spouse realize how thankful you are for them.
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November 08, 2011 05:03 AM MST
Bringing all the family together can be extremely rewarding, but it can also test the relationships of all those who are present. Here are four tips that can help minimize the negative impact that family and family gatherings can have on your marriage.
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October 27, 2011 03:15 PM MDT
Do you ever get defensive when talking to your spouse? Does your spouse get defensive with you? Defensiveness is one of the most common negative communication patterns I see when I counsel couples. The problem is that defensiveness tends to be one of the key communication patterns leading to arguments.
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September 21, 2011 04:05 AM MDT
Could mental health issues may be negatively influencing your marriage? Have you or your spouse ever been diagnosed with a mental health problem? If not, have you ever checked to see if you or your spouse have any symptoms?
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August 18, 2011 04:05 AM MDT
How do I forgive when it still hurts so much? How do I get back to how it was before he/she lost my trust? I want to move on, but how do I know if I am ready? How do I control all my thoughts that make me question if I can trust her/him again?
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July 19, 2011 04:03 AM MDT
We live in an economy that survives by convincing us that what we have is not good enough and we deserve better. Advertisers constantly throw this idea in our faces. They need us to believe that we cannot live without whatever they are selling, or that our lives would be better with something new or different.
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June 15, 2011 08:37 PM MDT
Do you ever have a loved one express their struggles to you? Do you wonder what you should say to help them? It is important to know how to respond. After all, this is someone you care about. You want what is best for them, and they are counting on you for help. The key to responding appropriately can be quite simple. However, many of the common responses we give to our struggling loved ones may do more damage than good.
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May 17, 2011 03:48 PM MDT
One of the most common issues parents ask me for help with in counseling is how to appropriately discipline their children. Kids can be a wonderful joy in the lives of parents, but they can also become stressors when their behavior starts to get out of control. I have compiled a list of helpful discipline strategies that can help parents improve the behavior of their children.
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April 18, 2011 04:05 AM MDT
Does it ever feel difficult to find time to nurture your marriage amidst the hustle and bustle of life? You are not alone. The trend in our society seems to be moving toward adding more and more things to our schedules. Whether it is taking care of the kids, work commitments, driving the kids to the sports practices and music lessons, church responsibilities, or school, just thinking about it all makes me tired!
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