Being single in a married world is tough, especially if you want to be married. The want can be coupled with insecurity, fear and discouragement. I was single well into my 30s, and being single was a struggle for me, but I learned a few things along the way. If I were to give myself advice while I was still single and in my 20s, here’s what it would be.
1. Trust God more
It’s easy to get discouraged when life isn’t working out as you envisioned and when prayers remain unanswered. Your faith in God is what will carry you through the hard times. Make it a priority to build a personal relationship with him. It requires work, discipline and obedience, but it is worth it. God has a plan for you, and it is better than you could have ever imagined, but you must trust him — his words, ways and timing.
2. Worry less
Most of your worries will be about things you can’t control or things that will never happen. Worrying zaps your time, energy and emotion. Channel your energy into things that are productive: developing a skill, working harder in school or at your job, volunteering, etc. But the only real solution I found for worrying less is trusting God more.