Singles

November 27, 2020 12:00 PM MST
Editor's Note: The views, information, or opinions expressed in this column are solely those of the author. Readers should consider each unique situation. This content is not meant to be a substitute for individual, professional advice.
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November 06, 2020 06:33 PM MST
On Sunday, November 1, six members of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles and their wives participated in broadcast devotionals in the United States and Canada.
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April 13, 2020 04:42 PM MDT
Elder Robert C. Gay of the Presidency of the Seventy and his wife, Sister Lynette Gay, will be the speakers at the second worldwide devotional for young adults in 2020. The broadcast will be on Sunday, May 3, 2020, at 6:00 p.m. MDT.
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March 11, 2020 12:00 PM MDT
Camille Fronk Olson is a professor emeritus of ancient scripture and former department chair at Brigham Young University, Provo, Utah. Her research and publications have focused on women in the Bible and Palestinian families. She loves to travel, garden, and research stories about her ancestors. She scored when she married Paul Olson, a decision that included the blessing of two children and four grandchildren.
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February 14, 2020 01:00 PM MST
Since 1992, The New York Times’ “Vows” column has featured how couples “got from dating to ‘I do.’” When the column started about three decades ago, it was common for romantic relationships to start through mutual friends, family, or in college before getting hitched.
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By  Zack Oates
July 06, 2019 09:00 AM MDT
The following article originally ran on LDS Living in September 2015.
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June 11, 2019 07:37 PM MDT
The first year Dr. Robert Ferrell spoke at BYU Education Week, he was surprised to find his classroom was packed.
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Fun
By  LDS Living
April 12, 2019 07:28 PM MDT
From dating to ward activities, there are a variety of awkward opportunities that arise when you put a group of young single adults together! As LDS Living Facebook follower Kirie Close says about the most awkward experience in the YSA ward, "Ummm . . . my entire time as a ward member in it. But it was fun!" Here are a few more of our favorite Facebook comments from LDS Living readers who responded to our question: "What was your most awkward experience in the YSA ward?"
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March 05, 2019 08:27 PM MST
When prophets encourage us to perform temple ordinances for our ancestors, this includes all the necessary ordinances of salvation. However, some young single adults might avoid sealings, thinking they are relevant only to those who are married. But that’s not true! There are blessings unique to the sealing ordinance that can help us right now if we will participate.
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By  LDS Living
March 05, 2019 02:14 PM MST
Over the past century, Erma Rosenhan has prepared more than 400,000 of her German ancestors' names, according to the Deseret News. About this remarkable woman, Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf recently wrote on Instagram, "She served as a missionary in Germany and volunteered in the Family History Library for 40 years. Her life has been full of meaningful service."
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March 02, 2019 01:57 PM MST
Typically you don’t think of the scriptures as a “how-to” manual when it comes to being single. But some of the best advice I’ve heard about being single and dating comes from the Doctrine and Covenants.
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February 18, 2019 12:00 PM MST
Don't do it. I know you want to. I know you want to pick up that jagged rock and just chuck it through their window. After all, they broke your heart. Worse, they threw it to the ground, danced on it, and then kicked it aside. But you don’t have to resort to criminal activity. There are better ways to get over your broken heart.
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February 14, 2019 04:03 PM MST
Being single in a family-centered church can be extremely lonely at times.
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February 11, 2019 10:06 PM MST
According to The Family: A Proclamation to the World, “Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan.” And yet, hundreds of thousands of Latter-day Saints now find themselves in a predicament few of them imagined: never married or divorced after what they expected would be an eternal marriage.
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February 09, 2019 01:15 PM MST
The following has been republished from alittlepencil.com.
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February 01, 2019 04:00 PM MST
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January 14, 2019 04:42 PM MST
“My original question had been, ‘Am I doing something wrong?’" Sister Oaks said about her experience as a single adult. "I learned that is the wrong question. I should be asking, ‘What more can I do that is right?’ You have that capacity.”
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January 05, 2019 04:00 PM MST
I remember feeling many times that I was just marking time, waiting for my life to happen.
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December 31, 2018 10:00 PM MST
I recently went through a pretty significant breakup. Significant because over the course of the relationship, there were several times when I believed this was it—this was the guy, and I was done looking. I am not going to get into the details of our breakup, but I will say it ended mutually and kindly and with plenty of sadness on both of our parts.
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December 28, 2018 10:29 PM MST
I’m just going to say it: Married people should wear wedding rings. Hear me out.
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December 15, 2018 03:00 PM MST
I was teaching a courtship and marriage Institute class for young single adults when I first read The Family: A Proclamation to the World (hereafter referred to as the Proclamation). In 602 words, 15 prophets, seers, and revelators gave us the Lord’s priorities for achieving successful, happy relationships. After studying this inspired proclamation, I felt it was perfect to use with my students. I explained to them that this proclamation was a revelation from God and therefore doctrine for the Church. It was a guide for them to make a proper choice in a marriage partner in order to achieve a successful and happy marriage.
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December 12, 2018 05:00 AM MST
This is an excerpt from the book Refuge and Reality: The Blessings of the Temple by John H. Groberg.
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December 01, 2018 03:00 PM MST
What powerful advice: I often have single friends that turn to me for counsel and guidance. And the most common advice I give? “Square yourself with Jesus. You so desperately want a relationship and marriage that you fail to realize what you need is Christ.”
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November 08, 2018 02:00 PM MST
Singles occupy a unique place in the Church. At least one-third of the adult Church membership is single. As President James E. Faust has pointed out, we were all single before we were married, and many, due to divorce or death of a spouse, will once again be single. The promise of an eternal family is nonetheless available to all who are worthy.
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By  LDS Living
October 23, 2018 11:45 AM MDT
Dating takes work. Marriage takes work. Being a good spouse takes work. And no one is perfect. But sadly, there's a misconception that the perfect spouse or perfect marriage is just out there, waiting. But the truth is, you have to work at being a good spouse and you have to work to create a perfect marriage.
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September 01, 2018 02:44 PM MDT
As a single sister in the Church, I’ve gone on my fair share of dates (more than I can remember in my 10 years of dating). Going out with someone who has a problem with pornography was never my goal in life. In fact, I had tried to avoid it at all costs. But as I got older, I realized that finding someone who had never been mixed up in pornography was going to be trickier than I thought.
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August 10, 2018 12:37 PM MDT
As a friend of Sister Oaks noted: "Nursery children do not look to see if you have a ring on your finger as you wipe away their tears. It doesn’t take a wedding license to feed hungry Scouts or missionaries or shut-ins. Nowhere on the tithing slip do you indicate marital status as you contribute to the Church’s humanitarian service or Perpetual Education Fund. And they don’t have two doors at the temple — one for couples and one for singles. We are a Church that needs faithful workers. I’ve been blessed because I had priesthood leaders who knew this."
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July 27, 2018 01:05 PM MDT
As a professional matchmaker, I have been privileged to hear thousands of heartbreaking, beautiful, and amazing dating stories from singles in the 31–45 age range, otherwise known as mid-singles. Some are divorced, others widowed, and many have not yet been married.
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July 12, 2018 02:12 PM MDT
A little while ago I went on a date with a new guy. He was very nice and polite, active in Church, good-looking, and seemed to have a stable job.
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June 23, 2018 12:22 PM MDT
It's been said that the most dangerous thing is to have no dream at all. But how does one come up with the right kind of dream? It’s a good question, one that I had when I was preparing for college. My dad helped me answer it. He taught me that your guess about a dream career should take into account what you think about when you’re not required to think about anything.
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April 25, 2018 05:08 PM MDT
“We all have crosses we’re carrying,” former YSA Bishop Richard Ostler said. “To understand someone’s cross, we’ve kind of got to go there with them, listen to their story, and then we’re fully able to mourn with them or comfort them or walk with them.”
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Fun
By  LDS Living
April 16, 2018 05:00 PM MDT
Whether your guest speaker backs out or you simply run out of time to plan anything elaborate, if you find yourself fumbling for something fun and productive to do for Mutual or a YSA ward activity, check out these fast and fun activities.
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April 03, 2018 08:55 AM MDT
I often hear that single people want to be married and married people want to be single. Life seems so much easier on the other side of the fence. We often only see the other sides’ finished product or the public appearance, not what really goes on behind the scenes.
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March 24, 2018 03:00 PM MDT
As a single Latter-day Saint, church experiences are different from the “norm.” I took some time to talk with a dozen or so singles and former singles (particularly those who spent some real time being single past the age of 21) and invited them to tell the rest of us what they’d like us to know about their experience as singles in the Church.
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By  LDS Living
March 23, 2018 03:37 PM MDT
We've definitely all been there before. You know, "single and looking to mingle." And even though you may just be trying to be helpful—friendly, even—some of the things you say could be hurtful to single adult friends and family members. Especially when they're said at church.
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March 10, 2018 04:23 PM MST
Older single persons often find themselves the center of great attention and affection as loving and caring relatives seek to cajole, humor, goad, and provoke them toward marital union, not realizing the lack of available compatible mates. These efforts are made out of genuine love and concern, but often they only increase our sensitivity to our single condition.
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March 08, 2018 02:00 PM MST
Being a young, single member of the Church is both exciting and terrifying. On one hand, I have more freedom than I will have at any other time of my life. It's a time that I am completely focused on me—what I want to do. What I want to learn. Where I want to go. How I want to spend my money. But on the other hand, the limitless possibilities of the future is incredibly daunting.
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By  LDS Living
February 10, 2018 09:34 AM MST
We asked our readers on Facebook about some of the worst things someone has said to them on a first date. We absolutely loved what we read. The responses were too hilarious not to share.
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February 02, 2018 10:27 PM MST
The following is an excerpt from Letters to a Young Mormon, a series of letters written by philosophy professor Adam S. Miller that distills the knowledge he wants his own children and young members of the Church to know.
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January 31, 2018 04:13 PM MST
An anonymous letter with only a post office box address was delivered to Elder Oaks. The letter expressed a concern so decisively that he felt to share both it and his reply with me. They state very well the struggle with self-worth so many of us feel in this life.
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January 20, 2018 03:22 PM MST
One memorable evening, after participating in a fireside in Tremonton, Utah, I strapped myself into my little Hyundai and set out for the drive home. As I proceeded southbound along the Wasatch Front, I marveled at the number of temples I passed along the way. . . .
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December 04, 2017 03:43 PM MST
Earlier this year, 16 young adults participated in a YSA conference in Beirut, Lebanon, the first conference ever to be held in the Middle East.
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November 18, 2017 03:14 PM MST
The holidays are nearly here, and with them come family parties, ward activities, and any number of dinners and invitations. While it is fun to anticipate these events, for some these social gatherings can sometimes lend to unwanted questions and awkward moments. Though it is important to remember family and ward members often ask us questions out of love, here are a few questions you should consider asking Mormon singles beyond the typical, "So, are you dating anyone?" Some questions are just for fun; others get to the heart of what your family member might be experiencing.
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August 17, 2017 09:05 AM MDT
I was a divorced mother of two in my late thirties when I first entered the LDS mid-singles scene. Those years of dating took me on quite a journey—one filled with thrilling highs, as well as countless bumps and bruises to my heart and ego. But the love lessons I learned during that time ultimately made me stronger, wiser, and happier. So here they are: my six hard-learned lessons about love. Hopefully some of my experiences can help you better navigate the mysterious dating world.
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June 23, 2017 11:00 AM MDT
Being a young, single member of the Church is both exciting and terrifying. On one hand, I have more freedom than I will have at any other time of my life. It's a time that I am completely focused on me—what I want to do. What I want to learn. Where I want to go. How I want to spend my money. But on the other hand, the limitless possibilities of the future is incredibly daunting.
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June 13, 2017 05:30 PM MDT
Here are five crucial facts every single adult Mormon needs to remember, even when life gets hard.
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March 28, 2017 06:17 PM MDT
In a recent interview with the Mormon Channel "When Life Is Less Than Ideal," Sister Carole M. Stephens shared a surprising statistic:
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March 03, 2017 10:00 PM MST
When I started working at the temple two years ago, I had no idea I was going to instantly acquire 30 or more adorable mothers and grandmothers, whom I love. They marvel over my “young memory;” set me up on dates with their nephews, grandsons, and neighbors; impart of their wisdom; and constantly remind me what a blessing it is to be working at the temple. “It’s so nice to see young people in the temple!” and “I never even thought about working here at your age!” are phrases I hear regularly.
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February 22, 2017 05:20 PM MST
I was baptized 10 years ago. During these 10 years, my journey has not been easy. But being baptized has made it easier. The gospel, the Church, and my membership in the Church have truly enriched my life.
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February 22, 2017 03:52 PM MST
The men in the 26th Ward in Provo, Utah, did something unexpected to show the women in their ward that they appreciate them: they created an ingenious Disney parody. On the heels of theirhilarious Inside Out parody that received over 300,000 views, the men were at it again with this Beauty and the Beast parody that shows many of the pitfalls of YSA dating.
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February 14, 2017 03:04 PM MST
I don’t believe in a one, true love.
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February 08, 2017 11:31 AM MST
Before movies and magazines proliferated our society, one’s perception of attraction was limited to the real people one knew in the community. Thus, average people were often seen as beautiful in a variety of ways and the occasionally striking beauties were allowed to be seen as less so as they aged. This allowed for realistic expectations that did not associate exceptional beauty as the defining quality that makes someone lovable. Relationships were based on more common and realistic expectations.
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February 04, 2017 03:00 PM MST
Dating can be fun, but then again it can also be completely frustrating, confusing, and time-consuming. Here is some timeless advice that might help keep things in perspective so you can minimize all the negative aspects of dating.
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February 01, 2017 08:14 PM MST
Why do women (or men, for that matter) stay in relationships that aren’t quite right for them? True, no relationship is perfect, but if you find yourself ignoring the following red flags, you might want to cut your losses and look for someone who is a better fit. Here are 9 signs he isn’t “the one.”
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February 01, 2017 05:00 AM MST
The Myth of Attraction
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January 31, 2017 03:08 PM MST
These are definitely interesting points Church members should be aware of as they search for someone to date.
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January 26, 2017 04:00 PM MST
Tinder has been making marriages and headlines for years now. And while many LDS singles have had success with the app, others experience frustration when they realize many of the people on Tinder aren't looking for the same kind of commitment.
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January 16, 2017 12:37 PM MST
Most LDS singles strive to be their best in every aspect of life. They fear settling for something that is mediocre in dating and love. They hope for amazing (and even enviable) relationships.
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December 15, 2016 07:05 PM MST
The holidays can be an especially difficult time if you are recently divorced. If you’re facing the holidays for the first time as a divorced person, try the following tips to brighten the season.
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November 28, 2016 10:15 PM MST
Today’s young adults are facing more challenges than ever before. So to help them navigate a complicated world while also finding the best within themselves, the members of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles offer the following messages in hopes of specifically ministering to our young brothers and sisters, taken from We’re with You: Counsel and Encouragement from Your Brethren.
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