Self-Worth

By  Emily Abel
February 04, 2021 01:00 PM MST
Editor's note: This article is the first in a new LDS Living series, “This may be one of the best talks you've never heard,” highlighting talks you may have missed through the years.
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January 28, 2021 08:53 PM MST
In this week's episode of This Is the Gospel, Wendy shares that she was always painfully aware that she looked different. At just 2 months old, she developed a blood tumor, or hemangioma, on her forehead. After enduring constant bullying her entire childhood, Wendy was able to have the tumor removed when she was 10 years old. But the damage done by others' cruel words and actions had Wendy questioning her worth until she began a lifelong process that helped her understand how God saw her.
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October 19, 2020 06:44 PM MDT
In a new video published by the Church, a woman named Rebekah shares how her world was turned upside down when she discovered that she had been abandoned by her birth father before she was born. Already facing an identity crisis from this news, things took an even worse turn after she was sexually assaulted by someone she trusted deeply. It was then that she began feeling like the world—and God—were against her.
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October 16, 2020 04:55 PM MDT
Editor's Note: The views, information, or opinions expressed in this column are solely those of the author. Readers should consider each unique situation. This content is not meant to be a substitute for individual, professional advice.
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Fun
By  Emily Abel
August 05, 2020 06:00 PM MDT
A new animated Church video released on Tuesday, August 4, explores the important and timely topic of practicing self-compassion. The playful animation style makes the video especially approachable for children, but the message is meaningful for all ages.
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June 13, 2020 11:00 AM MDT
This article originally ran on LDS Living in November 2014.
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By  LDS Living
March 25, 2020 11:00 AM MDT
It has been quite a year so far! We know that many of us are experiencing high levels of stress and anxiety during this time of uncertainty and isolation. Because of that, the staff at LDS Living shared some favorite Deseret Book picks that have brought them peace and inspiration lately. We hope that they can do the same for you.
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February 01, 2020 12:00 PM MST
This story was originally published by LDS Living in November 2016.
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November 02, 2019 12:17 PM MDT
Joseph Fielding Smith changed John Bytheway's life in five words when he said, "We read scriptures too fast." Check out these five "sermons in a sentence" from the scriptures that could change your life, too!
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August 31, 2019 03:00 PM MDT
The following article was shared on LDS Living in June 2017.
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August 01, 2019 01:02 PM MDT
Our culture tends to objectify both women’s and men’s bodies. It teaches us to see people as bodies (or objects) first and people second, which leads us to judge and value people by how they look. This leads to negative body image because we are taught that our bodies are the most important things about us and that we need to “fix our flaws” in order to be happy.
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July 12, 2019 02:38 PM MDT
As Disney fans around the world prepare for The Lion King to hit theaters, we wanted to share some of the gospel lessons that make this story great.
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By  LDS Living
March 26, 2019 09:41 AM MDT
Mother and artist Kate Lee is one of the newest faces at Deseret Book. Her unique watercolor artwork is a beautiful display of her testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ and her love of family. We recently asked Lee about the inspiration behind her work and why she loves it.
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February 02, 2019 11:00 AM MST
It’s a phrase I’ve said to myself many times before: “With God, you are enough.”
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January 15, 2019 10:52 PM MST
This article recently appeared in the September/October 2018 issue of LDS Living magazine.
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January 01, 2019 10:00 PM MST
Losing 140 pounds is no easy feat. Just ask Trent Heppler. Never in a million years did he believe that he would one day shed the weight, let alone run a marathon. But Heppler learned that the power to overcome his physical weaknesses—whatever they may be—comes from a spiritual strength gained through the Savior, Jesus Christ. Growing up overweight and self-conscious, Latter-day Saint Trent Heppler always felt that exercise was just another form of torture invented to make him feel inadequate.
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January 01, 2019 02:57 PM MST
I love the invigorating, clean-slate feeling that comes with a new year. The impossible suddenly feels possible. I no longer fixate on past mistakes but instead on the endless possibilities before me.
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December 14, 2018 01:01 PM MST
The Word of Wisdom is one of the first things you learn about in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, whether you’re a sunbeam or an investigator. It is a key part of our religion, and it brings incredible blessings and promises when taken seriously and practiced correctly.
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November 26, 2018 07:24 PM MST
Anger is a very powerful emotion and can be a very destructive one. If we let it, it can completely take control of our judgment, leading us down a path we should not follow. Is there such a thing as righteous anger or does anger altogether cause our downfall? Take a moment and think about times that you felt anger. Can you pinpoint what became of that moment? It is easy to feel defensive, insulted, betrayed, or disrespected, which in turn triggers our fight, flight, or freeze reactions and often leads to anger. Reacting in anger can cause us to make poor choices, yet we need to remember that we always have two options: Choosing the natural man, or choosing a God-like response. Here is the difference and a few things you can do to better manage angry responses:
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October 19, 2018 03:20 PM MDT
When I was a kid, I always wanted red hair.
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October 17, 2018 05:43 PM MDT
Latter-day Saint singer and songwriter Jennifer Manges recently released her new music video for her upcoming single, “I Am a Woman.” The inspiring lyrics testify of the beauty and importance of women in the world today.
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By  Zack Oates
September 26, 2018 09:45 AM MDT
My wife and I recently ran a half marathon.
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By  LDS Living
September 09, 2018 10:14 PM MDT
The winds of life can be tumultuous and hard to weather a lot of the time. Here are some inspiring and helpful books to help you organize your life and in doing so draw closer to the Lord.
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August 17, 2018 01:42 PM MDT
Many years ago, a young man (he was only 23 years old) was called to be the new stake president in Tooele, Utah. In those days, stake conferences had two sessions, and at lunch between the sessions, Joseph F. Smith, one of the General Authorities attending, said to the new stake president, “You said you believe the gospel with all your heart, and propose to live it, but you did not bear your testimony that you know it is true. Don’t you know absolutely that this gospel is true?”
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July 26, 2018 12:32 PM MDT
Some years ago, while renewing my temple recommend (with a member of my stake presidency), I was asked the last of the recommend questions, which at that time read: “Do you consider yourself worthy in every way to enter the temple?” I responded, with enthusiasm, “Absolutely!”—to which the good brother interviewing me appeared genuinely shocked. I felt as though I had actually made him uncomfortable, perhaps more so than if I had confessed some serious transgression.
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July 23, 2018 12:00 PM MDT
As a psychologist, I have had experience and training regarding the concept of self-esteem. Self-esteem is commonly defined as having respect for one’s capacities and for oneself, including a feeling of confidence. Low self-esteem is a very common occurrence among individuals. How can we increase the amount of respect we have for ourselves?
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July 21, 2018 12:39 PM MDT
Although Latter-day Saints are among the best people I know, they are also among the most self-critical. Too often we work hard to improve and repent and then fail to fully claim the “amazing grace” of Jesus Christ. As a psychologist and as a Church member, I’ve struggled to help clients, missionaries, friends, and colleagues let go of excessive self-blame and like themselves again.
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July 12, 2018 03:39 PM MDT
“You may have times when you wonder if your call is beyond you,” President Henry B. Eyring told recently called mission leaders. “You may even ask, ‘Is this too much for me?’ I have had such moments often in my service in the Lord’s kingdom. And I have learned how important it is to banish those moments quickly. If you let them linger, they grow, and then your power to serve diminishes."
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July 05, 2018 02:33 PM MDT
Maybe you feel your prayers aren’t being answered—or even heard. Perhaps you feel you have strayed beyond the Father’s ability to forgive. Maybe you’re struggling to trust that the Atonement of Jesus Christ really works in your life. Perhaps you are awash in fear, grappling to stay on top of adversity. Maybe you have been betrayed in the deepest way by one who should have treasured you. Or maybe you’re just trying to be patient, waiting for promised blessings and starting to lose faith that they will come.
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June 27, 2018 03:57 PM MDT
Feeling good about yourself and realizing your worth is always important and, in fact, plays an important role in relationships. It’s very hard to connect with people who are constantly putting themselves down or dismissing the kind things others have to say. Some don’t say anything out loud, but you can get the sense from their behavior or posture that they feel they have nothing good to offer. It’s as though they are determined to prove that there is not a single good thing about them.
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June 22, 2018 02:00 PM MDT
As women, we are bombarded with impossible expectations about our bodies through social media, movies, television, the internet, and almost everywhere else you can imagine. It seems everywhere we turn we are told that our worth comes from our appearance and we will never be enough.
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June 04, 2018 08:05 AM MDT
Everyone wants to be happy—and for good reason. Happy people earn more money and are more likely to get married and stay married. They also attract more friends, are more productive at work, and even outlive their gloomier counterparts by about nine years.
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May 18, 2018 06:56 PM MDT
“You deserve to know your body is not defined by its size and that you are not defined by your body," LDS Beauty Redefined founders posted on Instagram in response to Kim Kardashian's post promoting appetite suppressant lollipops, "You deserve to eat."
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May 08, 2018 03:00 PM MDT
When I was 17, I found my first job at an ice cream parlor, and I loved it. The employees got to eat as much free ice cream as they wanted—at least, that’s what my 19-year-old supervisor told me. So, of course, I ate it. A lot of it. I loved ice cream, and I still do. But there were some things about the job I didn’t love. Having to be there at a certain time and stay for the whole shift seemed suffocating to a free-spirited (and, arguably, lazy) teenager. I also didn’t love smelling like a sack of sour milk at the end of each workday. How something so right could smell so wrong was a complete mystery to me.
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May 05, 2018 08:00 AM MDT
A mother truly is a many splendored thing. She is a nurse, counselor, cook, maid, chauffeur, comedian, magician, accountant, guard, preacher, teacher, and dispenser of all that is good. She loves unconditionally, understands her children, teaches correct principles, sacrifices selflessly, and works unceasingly. Yes, mothers are honored, revered, and made to be saints—perfect even. But are moms perfect? Is that what is expected of us, needed from us? Will we fail in our role if we are anything less? These are questions many mothers, myself included, have struggled with.
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May 03, 2018 05:00 PM MDT
What happens when a child misbehaves? As a daughter of God, I mess up and frequently fail. It happens every day. This process of falling down and transgressing doesn’t shock or surprise my Father. He knew I would not always get things right. It’s part of a process on the ideal path of learning that God established for all His children. He provided a Savior, and in doing so He ensured all His children the chance of success, regardless of our sins or transgressions. So why have so many of us forgotten His love? How did we go from rejoicing about the Father’s plan in that premortal family council meeting to thinking we were sent to earth to never make a mistake and that if we did, He would withhold His love? When did we start thinking that God would love us and accept us only if we were perfect?
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April 07, 2018 01:00 PM MDT
Every six months, we have the opportunity to tune in to new sessions of general conference where we can receive powerful inspiration and counsel from our church leaders. As amazing as that opportunity is, we sometimes neglect to revisit conference talks after the weekend is over, never taking full advantage of all they have to offer. When we do this, we are missing out. Here are 25 suggestions for making the most of general conference, allowing it to power our lives every month, week, and even day, of the year:
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March 24, 2018 12:00 PM MDT
Few of us grow up thinking, “Someday, I want to be part of raising a blended family,” especially in the LDS community, where the ideal is to have a mother and father marry and stay married, raising their children together.
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March 21, 2018 04:12 PM MDT
Call me crazy, but I believe we can be at peace with our physical bodies. That we really can feel comfortable in our own skin. I know I’m taking a huge leap by making that statement. After all, body image statistics reveal that most of us aren’t very thrilled with the way we look. It almost seems like hating your body (or at least various parts of it) goes hand in hand with being human.
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March 20, 2018 09:17 AM MDT
Some of us devote our lives to doing everything the instruction book outlines and then consider good feelings our right. And then we are angry when peace does not accompany our accomplishment. We may become exhausted from the effort, and still we do not have a feeling of well-being. We feel we have done our part and have been cheated.
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March 15, 2018 01:45 PM MDT
What a beautifully written piece about what it means to love fully and walk with genuineness before God. "Letting virtue garnish your thoughts is a call to avoid self-deception. It’s an invitation to self-awareness, self-acceptance, and complete honesty."
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March 06, 2018 04:01 PM MST
First of all, I want you to be proud you are a woman. I want you to feel the reality of what that means, to know who you truly are. You are literally a spirit daughter of heavenly parents with a divine nature and an eternal destiny.
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March 02, 2018 09:00 AM MST
Conference Talk: For more information on this topic read "One among the Crowd," by Dennis B. Neuenschwander, general conference April 2008.
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February 09, 2018 02:31 PM MST
Anna Lenhart struggled for years with the decision to go on a mission. She'd wanted to serve since she was a young girl, but every time she prayed, she felt like God was pulling her in a different direction. Sadly, Anna was often belittled for not going, but through the years she learned that a mission status does not define self-worth.
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February 01, 2018 04:36 PM MST
"Dress codes are often necessary and helpful to ensure everyone is on the same page about what to wear, but they can be written from a place of love, understanding and respect, rather than from a place of fear."
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January 31, 2018 04:13 PM MST
An anonymous letter with only a post office box address was delivered to Elder Oaks. The letter expressed a concern so decisively that he felt to share both it and his reply with me. They state very well the struggle with self-worth so many of us feel in this life.
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January 15, 2018 10:00 PM MST
We often try to spiritually ground ourselves with daily prayer and scripture study. However, our commitment to these practices is sometimes irregular at best. During prayer, it’s natural for our minds to wander; when reading the scriptures, our attention often drifts to what we’re going to do next. Not surprisingly, it’s easy to feel spiritually empty and apathetic.
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By  LDS Living
November 15, 2017 05:15 PM MST
We all wonder at times whether we are "good enough," and it can be difficult to remember our worth when we feel bombarded with our failures and the accomplishments of others. In a new LDS Youth video pubished by the Church, however, J. Devn Conrish of the Seventy reminds us that, "There's no such thing as being good enough."
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October 24, 2017 09:00 AM MDT
In honor of Stephen Covey's 85th birthday, we thought we would celebrate the incredible life this influential author and Latter-day Saint led with the life-changing conversation Covey had with fellow Mormon and former NFL quarterback Steve Young.
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October 05, 2017 11:02 AM MDT
What a powerful story of repentance and love that reaches beyond judgment and fear to see others the way our Heavenly Father does.
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By  LDS Living
September 25, 2017 02:12 PM MDT
Sister Joy D. Jones delivered a powerful message on Saturday—sharing the infinite worth of the soul along with mention of Heavenly Mother—just one day after her son's funeral.
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September 08, 2017 09:24 AM MDT
Over the years, apostles, general auxiliary leaders, and general authorities have shared countless stories and examples of valuable lessons they've learned from their parents or taught to their own children. Here are a few of our favorite stories and the inspiring parental advice each of them share.
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August 30, 2017 09:20 AM MDT
Most of us have a vivid memory of the first time we went to the temple to receive our endowments. I was a newly called missionary and had traveled to the Los Angeles Temple. I did not know what to expect. Although some aspects of my own endowment were wonderfully edifying to me, much of it was confusing. I left bewildered and a little frightened. I have since discovered that my experience was not unique. I have also discovered why my first experience was not all what I had anticipated. At the time, I did not understand the manner in which the Lord teaches His children in His house. Had I understood, my anxiety and confusion would have disappeared, even though my comprehension level might have remained the same.
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August 10, 2017 12:49 PM MDT
"Why do strong women stay in the Church? I cannot answer this question for anyone else. But I can answer it for myself. I stay because of yes. Because when I keep my covenants, I have the power of knowing — seeing — in a way I cannot achieve without my Father in Heaven." You should also check out Eva Witesman's powerful BYU speech on women and prophesying.
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By  LDS Living
July 29, 2017 02:00 PM MDT
Recently, Lindsay Kite from the non-profit Beauty Redefined shared a post to Facebook that might change the way you view your self-image.
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July 11, 2017 10:30 PM MDT
I remember the day quite clearly. I had had a rough week caring for my four little boys. It was Saturday. And my sweet husband said to me, "Why don't you go have fun? I'll take care of the kids." I thought that was a stellar idea. I got in the van (which I lovingly call "The Mother Ship") and sat.
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June 29, 2017 01:00 PM MDT
During the middle of my sophomore spring semester of college, I was feeling extremely overwhelmed. I was trying to manage a heavy course load, balance several leadership positions for extracurricular activities, serve effectively in my calling, be a good visiting teacher and member missionary, attend institute and church regularly, have a social life, etc.—and on top of everything else, I was dealing with chronic migraines. There simply wasn’t enough time to get everything done, let alone take care of basic personal needs such as sleep, nutrition, hydration, and exercise (things that would provide much-needed stress relief and help to prevent migraines). I felt hopelessly inadequate, subconsciously clinging to the belief that there was always something more that I could be doing. Most nights I stayed up much too late, trying somehow to fit in another task from my incessant to-do list. I felt exhausted and selfish, stuck inside my own world even though I tried desperately to push past my pain and focus on others.
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June 28, 2017 09:00 AM MDT
The following is adapted from Possibilities: Partnering with God to Become Your Best Selfby Kiersten Lortz.
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June 10, 2017 04:00 PM MDT
So much of what we do in life might turn out average, but there's always one aspect of our life that makes up extraordinary.
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By  LDS Living
May 22, 2017 02:42 PM MDT
David Archuleta recently released an epic music video for "Up All Night," a song from his new EP entitled Orion. He also released a behind-the-scenes video in which he discusses his inspiration for writing the song.
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